I’ve read a book, with something along the lines that our memories are not built on time. We remember moments, but we often forget the time of the occurrence, definitely vaguely remember the date, the more mechanical definition of time. It’s the epiphanies and the lessons we learn from past occurrences — and as time passes and after we have dwelt on the rationality of things, analysed them, detached from being blinded by emotions and disturbances (e.g. influences & pressures from the outside world) — that we remember, that shape us the way we are today, that influence our philosophies that we currently hold dearly when approaching life and situations.
Growing to be more mature definitely does involve in changing of life’s priorities, but some people prefer staying stagnant and ignorant, while some other people would prefer to push themselves beyond their boundaries to change, to seek and to grow. Perhaps, desperately.
One might be unhappy about their lives (or maybe staying in a seemingly comfortable niche ignorantly, and have no say in whatever life at throws them, accept the bitter pill and just comply) and live a life without passion.
But some might be incredibly upset about life’s situation, but seek to improve, and are determined to change and grow, to learn and approach new life philosophies. Often times, they might surprise many with their adroitness to change from extremes to extremes.
I think I am coming to the stage of learning to unlearn (you know “in order to learn, you have to first unlearn”) and seek a balance.
All in all, I believe the improvement and changes of one’s personalities, philosophies and perhaps characters, depend strongly on how focus and clear-headed one is on life’s goals and heart’s desires; on whether you ask yourself, what do I really want? And then, meditating on your heart’s desires, and goes about approaching life in order to achieve those desires, dreams and goals.
And it’s all good going through troughs, and to have realised that you had made mistakes, focused on the incorrect list of life’s priorities, or perhaps the incorrect order of it, because we learn through life experiences and past mistakes — epiphanies and valuable lessons drawn from them :)
Well, everyone has a different purpose in life, a different agenda, a different life journey one is to travel. It’s not the destination that is of importance, but it’s the journey one should treasure. From the troughs to the peaks, the highs and the lows – those times when I trudge through insufferable moments in my life, they impresses me of my ability to haul myself through hardship; those beautiful revelations; those wonderful moments spent with another, well treasured and kept in the past, because it’ll just be déjà vu, but never the same. As much as you are moving on, the others are too!
However, we have to remember that, we can do our best to improve all areas of our lives, but with those not within our control, we’ll have to leave up to God perhaps, or a higher being (depending on your religious beliefs) because things happen for a reason; and until the end of it all, when all pieces of life’s puzzles fall into place and you see the big picture, walking away with an epiphany, that’s rewarding. :)
“And it came to me then. That we were wonderful travelling companions but in the end no more than lonely lumps of metal in their own separate orbits. From far off they look like beautiful shooting stars, but in reality they’re nothing more than prisons, where each of us is locked up alone, going nowhere. When the orbits of these two satellites of ours happened to cross paths, we could be together. Maybe even open our hearts to each other. But that was only for the briefest moment. In the next instant we’d be in absolute solitude. Until we burned up and became nothing.” — Haruki Murakami (Sputnik Sweetheart)
Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know – Ernest Hemingway.
So perhaps, being ignorant will allow us to attain happiness easier?
